In today’s world, relationships with people have become digitalised like the rest of what was previously physical or “paper”, but it often happens that these relationships end without receiving explanations and therefore knowing why it happened. This phenomenon is called ghosting, let’s find out what it is and how to deal with it
The world is becoming increasingly digital and technological, as well as interpersonal relationships. More often than not, also due to contact blocks (as we explained in this guide to find out if someone has blocked you on WhatsApp). This block leads to a break with the person, whether it was your partner or a friend, but it is not addressed directly. This is commonly called ghosting, a term that has become very popular from 2015 onwards. It is not uncommon, in fact, that a relationship, especially at a distance, stops with ghosting. In this guide we find out what it is, if there is a identikit about a person ghosting, how to avoid it, and if you’ve experienced it, how to deal with it.
What triggers | Ghosting: what it is and how to deal with it
As we have already mentioned before, ghosting was born with social media. With the various features that social networks have, and even smartphones themselves, it is extremely easy to disappear at any moment and never be heard from again, abruptly ending a friendship or, in the worst case scenario, a relationship. But what triggers ghosting? The psychotherapist Jennice Vilhauer described ghosting as a form of social rejection, which activates the same regions in the brain that are stimulated when experiencing physical pain. In short, Ghosting is bad, because in addition to emotional suffering, physical suffering is also perceived. However, this obviously depends on the subject and how he deals with it. In fact, some suffered more from anxiety when the relationship ended with ghosting, while others felt the same sensations during a classic breakup.
Unanswered questions | Ghosting: what it is and how to deal with it
Regardless of the intensity one may feel when becoming a victim of ghosting, the pain associated with this wrong has a very clear explanation: there are many unanswered questions. In fact, disappearing completely without clarifying a discussion or otherwise talking about the problem it makes it harder to move on. Much better to end a relationship by throwing the harsh truth in your face than to leave it in limbo and make people think that everything is fine. The reason why it is so difficult to deal with ghosting is precisely this lack of closure which does not make it clear what the interpersonal relationship has achieved, not to mention that it could raise many questions. The victim may in fact think that something serious has happened to the person she loves, such as an accident or even death. Social psychologist Arie Kruglanski explained that being ignored means not being worthy of even receiving a response and that makes it even more painful.
How to identify the ghost | Ghosting: what it is and how to deal with it
A study by the University of Padua associated ghosting with typical traits of dark triad of personality: psychopathy, Machiavellianism and narcissism. Obviously we do not mean to say that those who ghost are psychopathic, but simply those who do so tend to have more accentuated traits of Machiavellianism and psychopathy than those who do not. Study coordinator Peter Jonason further added that those who do not have these traits hardly engages in short or occasional relationships, therefore preferring deeper and more lasting relationships. As a result, these people are much less likely to practice ghosting (which is often a quick way to end a recently started relationship).
Why does he ghost himself?
Some people tend to ghost more than anything else at times Don’t hurt the person who is rejectingor yet another reason could be that of fear of the rejected person’s reaction. The fact is that ghosting, at times, can be difficult for both, sometimes the people who ghost are sensitive themselves and are afraid to address the issue. However, it is always better to set the record straight and end things even in a bad way. Ghosting, in fact, is not closure, it leaves the relationship on hold and prevents victims from moving forward. Much better to give closure and not disappear.
What do you think? Have you ever suffered from ghosting? We hope this guide helps you understand how to identify a potential ghost, and we hope it never happens to you. Continue to follow us on techgameworld.com for other guides from the world of the web and much more.