The cultural revolution of web 2.0 has affected almost all aspects of our life. Romantic dates included. Let’s find out how!
By now we are so at ease among links, likes and hearts that we are able to establish very strong bonds of friendship and love even before we met live. Let’s see together how deeply social media have changed the way of meeting and interacting between partners.
Social media sites are great for making connections
The equation Social media + romantic encounter can only result in an online dating site. However, there is still no need to bother giants of the sector, to realize the enormous impact that social media have had on our romantic sphere.
Just refer to the most common social networks, where even just by accident couples are born like mushrooms! People are now much more likely to expand their circle of friends and acquaintances by sending requests to friends of friends online, rather than by attending unlikely parties where everyone congregates in little groups.
They can preserve the mystery of a date
Although we are used to considering social media as the sharing tool par excellence, these tools can also be exploited for the opposite reasons. In the offline world it is difficult to keep a truly secret love relationship, but things change if most of the time you just exchange private messages, which in practice no one can see. In this way many stories are born and live in complete oblivion, hidden in full view and in the face of all.
Dating sites offer match finding
If we then talk about dating sites, which are nothing more than a type of social network specialized in love relationships, using these tools we have the possibility not only to get in touch with geographically close people, but above all to look for a compatible partner according to dozens of different criteria.
In the social networks we have talked about so far, we limit ourselves to widening our circle of friends in a casual way, we could say like wildfire. In dating sites the question changes, because through the use of filters and search tools we are able to actively direct our efforts and our sympathies.
It is a very profound revolution in the way of understanding the encounter, love is no longer the result of a lucky chance, now people are dedicated to filtering and carefully selecting their partner in search of the infamous needle in the haystack.
All roses and no thorns? Of course not! The increase in the number of contacts that one’s partner has available, the simplicity with which he can interact with others without ever knowing anything, the telephone always connected and at hand, are things that inevitably weigh on the sense of security of those who perhaps by their very nature are not very inclined to blind trust.
Unfortunately this aspect cannot be mitigated, if not by a personal psychological work that each of us is called to do on himself when he decides to embark on a journey as a couple. It is true that trust must be won over time, but it must also be considered that love is rooted in this trust, and that when it fails it is very difficult to keep a story going. So beware of jealousy, if you suffer from it you should start managing it otherwise she will manage you.
There are too many fish in the sea
The “too many fish in the sea” is not an expression of judgment, but rather an objective observation. With social media we have many more contacts than we are able to manage, the way in which each member of the couple learns to manage this state of affairs determines a large part of the health of a relationship.
You can join together to the point of forming a boat that floats on the sea, or in that same sea the relationship can be watered down, diluted and finally dissolved. There is no right and wrong way to deal with things, each couple has to find their own way.
Private lives are now public
In contradiction with what said a few paragraphs above, the truth is that social networks were born to blurt out our life in public, there are no arguments that hold. It remains true that dating sites base their core business precisely on discretion, but the general trend is for a transfer of privacy in favor of sharing.
Good or bad? Probably as with all revolutions it depends on your age, millennials who have known the world already like this do not find anything strange in it, while everyone else will have to find a way to adapt to a world that has no intention of going back.